First of all, addiction is always a dangerous word to throw around. It takes away a person's element of control over their own actions. Just as smoking is not an addiction, it remains questionable whether there really is an 'addiction' to sex. There is no accepted definition of 'addiction' and it becomes easy for a person to hide behind the 'addiction' tag to justify actions that they would be unable to justify rationally. In a 'society' that likes to shame people, addiction can be a convenient screen that allows people to enjoy their lives in the way that they choose -
The media has flashed Sex Addiction across our screens in recent years, highlighting celebrity 'victims' like Charlie Sheen, Ulrika Jonsson, Tiger Woods, Gail Porter, and Michael Douglas (to name but a few). These are people who have enjoyed their lives, experienced pleasure from their actions, but from behind the protection of 'addiction' to save themselves from a societal backlash.
Helping the people of Scotland to overcome ‘Sex Addiction’ through the use of Clinical Hypnosis.
Helping the people of Scotland to overcome ‘Sex Addiction’ through the use of HypnoAnalysis.
Helping the people of Scotland to overcome ‘Sex Addiction’ by using Cognitive Processing & Integration.
It's becoming more common, unsurprisingly, since the media have brought it to everyone's attention! Just like claiming that smoking is an addiction, however, it gives people an excuse to engage in behaviours that they otherwise wouldn't -
In truth, hyper-
A healthy 18 year old male/female will have a very different desire for sex than a healthy 81 year old male/female. A healthy 18 year old male will have a very different desire for sex than a healthy 18 year old female. The politicians and clergy who attempt to define what is 'normal' for society are precisely the ones who are often caught engaging in what they may have just defined as 'deviant activity'…
Just like stopping smoking, dealing with a perceived addiction is first about recognising that you are NOT addicted, and that your behaviour is a choice. A choice that is rewarded with Endorphins each and every time you make it. As it is YOUR choice, YOU must want to change… and if you've come to Tranceformed Perceptions for treatment, that is a GREAT sign that you want to change! This determination to change your behaviour is hugely important to, and powerful in, your treatment. You will not be successful in therapy if you are making these changes for someone else -
We will look at your situation, either individually or with your partner, and work out the key areas where change is necessary. It may only be necessary for you, for example, to eliminate certain habits that infuriate your partner, but leave others alone… alternatively, you may want to 'switch off', or at the very least 'turn down', all of your triggers. Establishing these goals clearly is important for your success.
Then, through the use of Clinical Hypnosis techniques, we will work on the achievement of your goals. We may work on aversion to, or replacement of, the euphoric rush… this may not apply to you, but many people do not feel the same 'need' for the endorphine rush when they feel better about so many other things in their life that they have, perhaps, taken for granted.
A recent study into the neurological reactions of claimed sex 'addicts' suggested that the neural responses were not like those of a drug addict, and merely represented higher levels of sexual desire as opposed to a 'disorder' [Source: Socioaffective Neuroscience & Psychology 2013, 3: 20770 -
We exist on this planet to enjoy ourselves… and if that pleasure comes from sex, then so be it… as long as we are acting respectfully and responsibly.
However, we must recognise that the sex act itself causes the release of massive amounts of Endorphins (pleasure chemicals) into our bloodstream, and that these create desirable feelings of euphoria. Instead of an 'addiction', what may need to be treated is 'hyper-
This is a complex disorder. If two partners both have a high sex drive, and perhaps a willingness to experiment, then there can often be no problem at all -
Someone with a high sexual desire may find themselves compulsively watching pornography, perhaps engaging in sex outside of the relationship, maybe paying for sex, or simply indulging in 'higher excitement' sexual activities (trying new, dangerous, or illegal acts etc.) to achieve the endorphin release. This can lead them to feel guilt, especially if they have to hide all of this from their partner, and can lead partners to feel inadequate.
People 'suffering' from this can display single-
It should be noted that it is the EXTENT of the above behaviours that is critical, not the behaviours themselves! Swinging, for example, is a behaviour that many couples enjoy together… despite 'society' frowning upon it… so it is really when it becomes difficult to control, or when it has adverse impacts on other aspects of life that some form of intervention may be beneficial.
The most important thing, as far as help is concerned, is to recognise that your behaviour is causing you, or your loved ones, a 'problem' and seek help. That help may simply be to allow you to see that you DON'T have a problem -
Analytical Hypnotherapy, and indeed Cognitive Processing and Integration (CPI) therapy, can help to treat deeper rooted psychological problems where inappropriate thought processes have become embedded, perhaps from powerfully negative experiences in a person's sexual history.
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All conditions that we can treat with hypnotic techniques require two critical elements for success: your desire to make the change, and your maximum effort. If you have these, nothing can stop you!
The material included herein is intended to complement, not replace, the advice of your own physician, psychotherapist, or other healthcare professional, whom you should always consult about your circumstances before starting or stopping any medication or any other course of treatment, exercise regimen, or diet.
“… you’ve made me a man again! I can’t thank you enough, and neither can Mrs ******! I wasn’t able to perform [sexually], and have had it like that for years. Going back and finding out why this happened meant that I could deal with it. My only issue is that the sessions aren’t long enough. I felt so good that I didn’t want to come out [of hypnosis]”
“I don’t know how to write this, so bear with me. For years, … I’ve pretended to orgasm so often that … I didn’t think it was even possible. You blew that idea out of my head alright. When I think about it it feels weird. I go to ‘sleep’ and wake up able to have shuddering orgasms but I feel so good about it that I just disregard my own surprise. I will certainly be recommending you.”
“Colin, we’re just back from holiday … I did the self hypnosis trick you showed me and imagined the flight as I wanted to experience it. It was great to be part of the trip this time … I must admit that I felt a little anxious in preparation for the holiday, but stuck with your ‘homework’ and it paid off big time. Thanks, buddy, for all your help.”
“I’ve tried the patches, tried the gum, and it didn’t make a blind bit of difference. I was stunned by what you were telling me in our session, couldn’t believe it, but you took the time to explain it and it really hit home. I AM A NON SMOKER … and I love it. Thank you so much. Can you please tell me why is this not available on the NHS?”
Caroline, East Calder
“Thank you, Colin, for giving me back my self confidence. You know what it’s like and you gave me the encouragement to lose my weight. This time, the weight is falling off me!I’ve lost almost two stones already … I feel in control again.”