Well … you tell us!
Your sexual preference is EXACTLY that… YOURS. Society cannot dictate to YOU what is right or wrong for YOU… only YOU can. Now, of course, there are some limitations on that, especially where those preferences are considered (by society's lawmakers) to be illegal e.g. Paedophilia, Necrophiila, or Rape.
The team at Tranceformed Perceptions are not going to sit in judgement over you.
Helping the people of Scotland to overcome Unusual Sexual Preferences through the use of Clinical Hypnosis.
Helping the people of Scotland to overcome Unusual Sexual Preferences through the use of HypnoAnalysis.
Helping the people of Scotland to overcome Unusual Sexual Preferences by using Cognitive Processing & Integration.
No. Everyone has their sexual fantasies, and these are perfectly normal and acceptable when they remain within the law. Of course, if your desires are edging towards the illegal, or other people are suffering from your urges, then you should certainly seek help to alter these preferences.
If you have taken the brave step of openly discussing your desires with your partner and the relationship has broken down, then perhaps it is time to take some positive action. One of the first things for you to consider, either before therapy or with our support, is precisely what you want from life. If the fulfilment of your personal desires is strong enough i.e. is more important to you than the current relationship, you may be better off out of the relationship, and finding another with someone who shares your particular preference.
If, on the other hand, the relationship is deeply important to you and saving it is your preference, then there are options. The first may be for your partner to allow you to fulfil those needs on a non-
The next would be to seek therapy.
There are many schools of thought as to why people develop unusual sexual preferences, one of which is that any diversion of the primary sexual act (which is clearly biologically designed for the pro-
We're not going to get all Freudian at this point and look on everything as sexual abuse, because those theories now are being disproven, notably by evidence based psychology. Experience shows that a lot of 'unusual' sexual preferences have developed completely innocuously during childhood e.g. a child playing in the bath learns that dribbling water 'down there' is pleasing, leading to adult pleasure gained from the shower head.
Clinical Hypnotherapy, often combined with NLP techniques, can be used to change how you view your desire, to potentially replace your desire for one thing with a desire for another, or create feelings of aversion to the desired preference. We will be better able to suggest a treatment protocol after we have had our initial consultation.
Where the cause of an unusual sexual preference is considered to be a past experience, then Analytical Hypnotherapy or Cognitive Processing & Integration (CPI) Therapy may be of benefit. Once these experiences are identified, we can re-
So, we would have to say that what 'turns you on' in the privacy of your own home is your own business. Where problems may arise, of course, is where a partner, for example, judges what you enjoy as being 'unusual' or 'unacceptable'. This may be a projection of a societal viewpoint e.g. outdoor sex is unacceptable, a projection of a religious viewpoint e.g. homo-
The best guideline that we can offer you is that if YOU feel uncomfortable with, or about, something that 'turns you on' and you want help with this, then we can support you.
Most people's sexual preferences (and 'unusual' sexual preferences) are formed in the early-
As single adults it is relatively easy to find and identify "like-
You may also want to ask questions about the relationship itself if you are afraid to be completely open and honest about all aspects of your life, including your sexuality, with your partner.
This list is provided as a guideline of what is typically considered unusual by society, not as a statement of right or wrong behaviours. Experience shows that many of these 'deviant' behaviours are extremely pleasurable between consenting adults:
It is very important that if you are indulging in any of these activities that you take extra care to be safe, legal and to not impose your desires without consent, particularly, for example, if practising Autoerotic Asphyxia. Voyeurism, obviously, can be both intrusive and illegal, therefore we would suggest that this only be done with consenting couples.
One important point to note relates to a masturbation preference over sex. Auto-
The most common way to deal with these issues is for both parties in a relationship to have an open, honest conversation about their desires. In most cases, a healthy sex life in which two consenting adults actively participate in their mutually unusual sexual preferences can be satisfying and healthy, and can often bring both partners closer, strengthening the relationship.
However, when one person's desires are met with resistance the relationship can suffer, and it is fear of this happening that makes many people remain silent about these issues.
Again, we would be brutally honest and state that if you cannot openly and honestly express yourself in your relationship, then you really need to ask questions about that relationship. We can help you in this respect also.
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All conditions that we can treat with hypnotic techniques require two critical elements for success: your desire to make the change, and your maximum effort. If you have these, nothing can stop you!
The material included herein is intended to complement, not replace, the advice of your own physician, psychotherapist, or other healthcare professional, whom you should always consult about your circumstances before starting or stopping any medication or any other course of treatment, exercise regimen, or diet.
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